One of my closest friends was excluded from her son’s temple wedding (my friend is not LDS). To this day, 8 years later, she has never forgiven the church for making her miss her only son’s wedding. She is completely baffled that a church that boasts of its devotion to family would exclude parents from such an important day. From even just a purely public relations standpoint, this is bad policy. Not only will she never consider joining the church, but by continuing to share her bad experience with others, she poisons the water for them. At first I defended the policy, but it did not take me very long to realize that it is unnecessarily exclusive and hurtful, and it causes permanent damage to many family relationships. We need to consider getting rid of the year wait period for those that get married civilly first. If they have this option of a civil ceremony, the whole family can attend.