Ours may not be a story of broken families, broken testimonies, or even many broken feelings from the current policy of moratorium. It is, however, a story of some lost hope in the past, and potential hope in the future, from the way things were and are, and the way they soon could be.
My wife and I are both immensely grateful, first off, for our wedding. We were indeed married and sealed at the same time in an LDS temple, and will never regret our wedding day, and the decision we made to commit ourselves forever to each other on that day. Many of our family members could not be there, and because of that, we decided to do a ring ceremony, which we feel turned out incredibly special not only for those that could not be present in the temple (most of our family), but for all those present.
Looking back, however, my heart still breaks a little to know that my own mother and father couldn’t be there for the most significant part of that day, and looking forward, my heart breaks to think that most of my family might not be able to attend their grandchildren’s’ weddings if the policy were to remain as it is. Though we were lucky to have understanding family and siblings, there were some that were hurt by not being able to attend, likely to the point of being unwilling to allow principles of the restored Gospel into their lives.
The sealing, for them, became a divisive and contentious principle, rather than the principle of eternal love and fellowship that it truly is. Though, as I said, we have no regrets on our decision to marry and be sealed within the temple, if we were given the choice for our wedding, I likely would have preferred to do a civil wedding, assuming we would have been able to be sealed together shortly thereafter, and if I were to have the choice for our children, I would likely choose for them to have a civil marriage prior to their sealing as well. Doing so, I feel, would not only allow everyone to be included, it would provide an irreplaceable opportunity to show just how much our Gospel values the family, and, I believe, would give a greater opportunity to teach the principle of sealing, and how it differs from and enhances the marriage ceremony. Those excluded from our family will forever be unable to go back and attend my wedding, but hope still remains for them to not only attend the weddings of our children, but experience a life-changing event of two family members brought together temporally, and soon-to-be sealed together eternally.
I write this as a humble petition, joining all others already given, for our wonderful Church leaders to bring this matter to the Lord, and inquire of Him the possibility of this potentially harmful policy to be changed. I know personally it would touch many lives, beginning with those among my family and friends that, for one reason or another, cannot and in some cases may not ever again be able to enter the sacred House of the Lord.