I’m a convert who wants to put her family first

Posted by on Sep 21, 2013 in Blog, Personal Stories | 0 comments

I was baptized in the LDS Church when I was 19. One of many sore spots between me and my family was the idea that my family and friends from the first 19 years of my life would not be able to attend my wedding ceremony. When I explained my predicament to my LDS friends, common responses ranged from, “But you can have a ring-exchange ceremony” to “Don’t let your family make you do something you don’t want to...

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Please end the 12-month waiting period

Posted by on Sep 21, 2013 in Blog, Letters | 0 comments

Dear President Monson, I was raised in the Church, served a faithful mission, married my wife of 29 years in the Salt Lake City Temple, and we have six children born in the covenant. I plead with you to revoke the policy of making couples wait 12 months to be sealed if they choose to marry civilly first. The policy seems to have arisen in the 60′s and its motivation is unclear. ┬áTo the rest of the world, the policy appears to be about...

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One reason I don’t have a relationship with my extended family

Posted by on Sep 21, 2013 in Blog, Personal Stories | 0 comments

I have been happily married to my husband for over ten years now. We were married and sealed in the Bountiful temple, and it was a relatively small affair as weddings go. Only my mom, my sister and my sister in law attended from my family, plus a handful of friends who were not necessarily our closest friends, but our closest friends who held temple recommends. No extended family of mine travelled to be there, and I didn’t think much of...

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Planting the Wrong Seed

Posted by on Sep 21, 2013 in Blog, Personal Stories | 2 comments

One of my closest friends was excluded from her son’s temple wedding (my friend is not LDS). To this day, 8 years later, she has never forgiven the church for making her miss her only son’s wedding. She is completely baffled that a church that boasts of its devotion to family would exclude parents from such an important day. From even just a purely public relations standpoint, this is bad policy. Not only will she never consider...

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From Bride to Mother of the Bride

Posted by on Sep 2, 2013 in Blog, Personal Stories | 8 comments

I was married and sealed the month of August twenty-nine years ago in the Salt Lake Temple. My memories of it are both joyful and sorrowful. Joyful, because I married the man of my choice . . . in the place of my choice . . . in the best way I knew. I am still married to that man and we have built a great life and a close knit family together. Every time I think back on my wedding day I re-live the emotions that I felt three decades ago. I am...

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