I have always had issues with the temple, and I know it can be traced back to my emotionally painful wedding day.  I know what you mean about having a choice but feeling as though you don’t.  I was a fairly new member (about 14 months) and was quite young (22), and basically overwhelmed by the whole thing.  My member in-laws were quite pushy as well, as my husband was the first of their 5 children to get married so they threw their weight...